Pastor Keion Henderson Shocking Statement No Happiness in Marriage

I was shocked when Pastor Keion Henderson says there is no happiness in marriage while on Cam Newton 's podcast. This quote by Pastor Keion Henderson really got me motivated to share with people just how great God is in marriage. And what God will do in the lives of two people who are dedicated to serving and loving each other as the Bible declares. 

Biblical marriage will bring you happiness! 

Proverbs 18:22 

The man who finds a wife finds a treasure,

and he receives favor from the LORD

Who Said it? Pastor Keion Henderson is the new husband of Shaquille O'Neal's ex wife Shaunie . He also has a relationship with controversial but popular Pastor T.D Jakes. 

Notice that I put the word controversial before popular. Because in my eyes T.D Jakes should not be popular. But he should be considered controversial. I did not know about the relationship with Jakes before writing most of my opinion on this. And that would not of changed my opinion. It only makes my opinion even more bedrock. 

What Pastor Keion said was not Biblical. That is my opinion on what he said. I will go to the Bible to show you why it is not Biblical. 

Pastor Keion Henderson Gives Good Advice But I Strongly Disagree

 When I first heard Pastor Keion 's quote. I said that 's actually good advice. But my question would be why would you ever get married. Knowing that someone is going to bum out on you.

My advice to you as a man who has been in a horrible marriage for 14 years. Be careful who you marry. But this is why I am sharing this with the world. Without going into too much detail. Me not being happy in my marriage is not God 's plan. That is what happens when God's plan is not followed. 

Why I thought Pastor Keion gave great advice:  It is true that you should not go into your marriage thinking that it is going to be a boat load of fun and nothing else. Marriage is going to be a cruise ship ride. It 's like being on vacation for life with the best of the person that you have been dating for the last 3 years. 

Actually marriage is like being on a cruise ship that never takes off from the pier. You have to wait because the Captain was late. He had a flat tire getting to the ship. And when he finally got there and the ship takes off. You only had three days of fun until there was a bout of food poisoning and sickness on the ship that passed around to half of the ship. You finally get back home and you say I had fun but it was not exactly what I thought it was. 

Marriage is not what you think it is going to be. But it is worth it. Saying that there is no happiness in marriage. Is a strong statement that will give people the wrong impression.  

Did Pastor Keion Confuse a Partnership with Codependency? 

Pastor Keion mentions that your spouse cannot make you happy. You have to be happy. As if you are being depending your spouse to make you happy. That triggers me because I have heard that before. And it enrages me. Let me explain. 

In my opinion and observation through my experience of 14 years of marriage. The most important thing you can acquire in your spouse is the quality of friendship. That person is truly your friend and they would never let you down.

They are going to look out for you no matter what. This is not codependency. That is bull crap if any married person or person outside your marriage calls it being codependent.

Because when you are married there are very simple ways that your spouse can screw your life up. And then they can get very creative with screwing your life up. And not just your life, the life of your children.

That is not codependency. Anyone who has run a business understands that anyone who you let into the building can burn your whole business down. That is you have to be careful who you let into your home. And if the person that you marry allows the devil to take on a ride on their shoulders into the home you live in together. What else can you do?

The bad news is no one can know that their husband or wife is not a bum. You never know if your husband or wife are truly your friend until you get married. You will never know how they will react to their new found power in another person 's life.

My Opening Statement: Marriage was Intended to Be Good

When God made marriage I am very sure that his will was not that my expectation and my result would be that there would be no happiness in marriage. When God made Adam and Eve and put them together he said that it was good. He did not look at it and say that it was not happy. He said that it was good. 

As a married man of 14 years. I can tell you that your marriage will be as happy as you make it. And that is based off of whether or not both people in the marriage follow God 's precepts and commandments. 

God created marriage so that two people could enjoy life and share the fruits of it with others. Just as God did when the Father, Son, and the HOLY SPIRIT decided to make man in their image. The Father, Son, and HOLY SPIRIT are one. They have unity. They said let us... make man in our image. 

God wanted the unity of the man and the woman to produce offspring. And how are you going to do that if you are not happy. Or why would you want to do that if you are not happy. You will be passing down frustration and dullness. As we look at our world and the word of God. We can see vibrancy and fun. We can see much happiness mixed in with the pain that we encounter. 

But if we follow God 's  plan we will have much happiness in our marriage. It is only when we do not follow God 's  plan that we do not have happiness. 

Note: What you will be reading below is what I wrote when I heard the quote from Keion Henderson that there is no happiness in marriage. I started writing about it before I actually heard his thoughts in context. This is my first time hearing from Pastor Henderson. 

While writing about how I felt about this controversial statement. I said to myself. I have to go and hear the statement in it 's entirety and context so that I can make sure that I understand what he is trying to say. 

So I went and I watched the video. And I was mostly correct. He was saying exactly what I thought he was saying. The first few paragraphs will be how I felt about the quote before watching the video. And the rest will be how I felt after watching the video. 

I will let you know when one begins and ends. This is all to be very fair to Pastor Keion. Because I only want to give glory to God, help people and and share my experience with this issue. 

 A Pastor Saying No Happiness in Marriage Terrible Advice 

 Ok this is how I really feel about what Pastor Keion Henderson. There is no happiness in marriage? Terrible advice... Terrible advice. Why would someone want to get married if there is no happiness in marriage. Again he is trying to sound deep. But the Bible says. He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Who can find a virtuous woman? A worth is above rubies. That sounds like HAPPINESS to me!!! 

Proverbs 31 

Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?

She is more precious than rubies.

11 Her husband can trust her,

and she will greatly enrich his life.

12 She brings him good, not harm,

all the days of her life.

What God do you serve? That created marriage that is not two people coming together to increase good things. Be fruitful and multiply is what God said. It is Good. He looked at marriage and said it is good. Spread the goodness that comes from your loving and great union. That is why God made sex great and it feels good. Are you not happy when you make whoopee with your spouse? God made it that way so that you would be fruitful and multiply . So God made it feel good.

Therefore, if there is no happiness in marriage and it doesn 't feel good. Then why would anyone get married? What kind of God makes something that people want to run away from. True you can 't expect your spouse to make you happy. But there is no happiness in marriage? Yikes. That sounds so sad and defeated.

Did Pastor Keion Mispeak about Proper Marriage Mindsets? 

I don 't think he means what he is actually saying. So I don 't know why he said it for. Other than to sound really profound and catchy. That his the ministry trick these days. We are relying on superficial things rather than meat and potatoes to build a ministry. The Apostle Paul said that when I came to you it was not about my preaching style or my fancy words. It was not about using my flesh or the things of the world. What I know, how I feel or the latest trends in reaching people.

1 Corinthians 2 

When I first came to you, dear brothers and sisters, I didn’t use lofty words and impressive wisdom to tell you God’s secret plan. 2 For I decided that while I was with you I would forget everything except Jesus Christ, the one who was crucified. 3 I came to you in weakness—timid and trembling. 4 And my message and my preaching were very plain. Rather than using clever and persuasive speeches, I relied only on the power of the Holy Spirit. 5 I did this so you would trust not in human wisdom but in the power of God.

Unlike the Apostle Paul who used the HOLY SPIRIT to minister to people. Pastors these days think to themselves. I have to be cool I have to be deep because people with itching ears want to hear that. And T.D Jakes is A - number 1 on that.

But Paul said I allowed my weakness to be shown right where I was and I was not afraid of that. Because I relied on the HOLY SPIRIT to minister to you. And what you hear Pastor Keon saying is nobody seems to know the truth. He said that somewhere in the podcast clips. I am just a guy who is preaching what I think is the truth almost. This is my version of the truth. But you could have yours. That is a T.D Jakes teaching. This is what I heard at least from the clips. I will go back and watch the whole thing. Because I don 't want to misquote anyone. 

My main thing is. We cannot share with people what we think about marriage or anything else. We HAVE to be guided by the Word of God. And if we are not that is very damaging. I know that! My marriage would of been much better if the word of God were the guides. But sadly that did not happen. 

I don 't want you to go through what I did. 

So what do you think? Is there happiness in marriage? Be blessed and thanks for stopping by!